Wants vs Needs.

You wake up one morning and you realize what you want in your life is different than what you need. Many people get this confused. They confuse what they want in life vs what the truly need. We all fall victim to this but the point is to realize it. Most of the time our lives are very boring. We wake up to a alarm clock. You're feet hit the floor and its off to piss and take a shower. It makes you wonder how many times you have done it over your life time. The same goes with relationships. We often find ourselves entering relationships purely out of getting what we think we want. The most loving person in a relationship is the most self centered. Sometimes what we think we want, isnt what we want after all. It may take a week, or several months to realize it. Hindsight is such a powerful tool. Instead of expecting to get something out of the relationship, we should put what we want into it. If you put anger from past relationships in to the relationship sooner or later you will find yourself being in a relationship full of anger. Same goes for jealousy as well. Who wants that? Life is about sharing the joy and love that you have to offer someone. We want people in our lives and what we dont realize, the harder we want someone in our life we end up pushing them away. There should be a fine line between creating an environment that is fulfilling for both people in the relationship. Sometimes, we fall in love with the wrong type of people. We fall in love with these people because they are "broken" and damaged. We think we can fix these people. We try, try and try to make it work but sometimes the pieces that are broken don't fit into the box that we have inside our heads. The harder you try to "Fix" that person the more it becomes just an addiction. An addiction to please, and addiction to feel wanted and loved when in reality we are only truly hurting ourselves. I have been there and I have done it. I have wanted to fix and I have wanted to please. In the end, it caused the death of what we thought was good. It wasnt good at all. It was unhealthy and suffocating. It however was a learning process of connecting the dots to realize that we cant fix anyone else but ourselves. With that said, I believe that we are often afraid of our feelings. We make excesses to deny what we are feeling. Nobody can change the way that you feel. We often use words that are meaningless. Words are just words and thats all they will ever be. We use words to get us by. We say things we don't mean, We say things we often sometimes regret. I believe the only way to live life to the fullest is to connect what you are feeling to what you are saying. If you are feeling sad, feel it. Accept it but never ever dwell on it. The more you focus on being angry, the more angry you become, its the law of attraction simply put. You only have one life to live. It doesnt alot for the life you live to be over. When you put your feelings into thoughts then you create emotions. Emotions are often powerful and we find ourselves questioning our emotions all the time because its something that we are never taught. So what do you need in your life and what do you truly want out of life? Do you need someone or do you truly want them in your life, thats half the battle of living life to the fullest.